Privacy? Does It Still Exist in Our Children’s Lives?

May 10, 2012By 9 Comments

I am not one to normally write about what I am seeing in magazines, but this one won’t get out of my head. It is everywhere, and soon to be on news stands. I don’t normally discuss this kind of stuff, because in all honesty breast feeding is a personal preference for every Mother out there, but this Time Magazine cover is just ticking me off. Let me show you this picture…

I don’t like debates or arguments, but I couldn’t let this thing just slide on by without discussion. As a Mom who attempted breast feeding, pumped instead of actual breast feeding and stopped when both my children were 4 months old I am not one who can have much say on the department of length, but I will gladly say, this is not something I want seen on the cover of a magazine that is at my children’s height.

I don’t find breast feeding disgusting, but I do feel it is being made a little too public now a days with the amount of nursing rooms everywhere. It is a private, sentimental moment between a Mother & child, and should be kept that way with the amount of pervs lurking the earth now a days.

Since this image bothered me quite a bit, I started navigating around the Internet to see other’s opinions, and apparently I am not alone in my feelings. Yes, we know breast feeding is best for babies, but do we have to portray it to be scandalous? This image doesn’t say loving, nurturing or anything I think about when breast feeding is discussed. This to me is just… gross. Saddening that Time Magazine is the publisher of this photo.

Upon my searches to find others with opinions on this, Dad Camp is the center point of my thoughts exactly! Their article just sums up my frustrations, from a male point of view however. Here is a snippet of their article and I’ll include a link so you can read it in full!

It’s classic link bait. Say something as outrageous as possible to inflame as much debate as possible. It’s like the Time publishers went to school on Paris Hilton and Kim Kardashian in public manipulation.

And the internet has chomped on the bait hook, line, and sinker.

The article features a lithe 26 yr old mom of two proudly breastfeeding her 3 yr old. Inside the piece Jamie Lynne Grumet talks about how she herself was breastfed until she was 6. “It’s really warm. It’s like embracing your mother, like a hug,” she recalls. “You feel comforted, nurtured and really, really loved. I had so much self-confidence as a child, and I know it’s from that. I never felt like she would ever leave me. I felt that security.”

Breast is best, but … it doesn’t always work for everyone. I maintain that extreme behaviours like this do little to encourage breastfeeding as a norm, but rather portray and some freaky outlying attitude. Breastfeeding is natural, perfect, and the best way to nourish children. This pose, and Ms Grumet’s experience and lifestyle, doesn’t promote that.

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This cover is saying so many different things. It right away is stating if you don’t breast feed your children until they are older, that you aren’t woman enough. Hello!? Thanks Time Magazine for degrading many of your readers. Smart, not. Cancellation of subscription? Yep.

How is this mother to know what she’s doing, isn’t going to destroy her sons life down the road. I know I wouldn’t want to find out I was featured on Time Magazines sucking my Mother. Shesh, I don’t even like the idea that I was breast fed by my own Mother, makes shivers go up my spine! The thought of this to me, makes my stomach turn. Is there any privacy anymore for our children’s futures? Yes, I write about my family, but I don’t write about the utmost personal things, like breast feeding. And I surely would NEVER post such an image, let alone any that could cause emotional and personal issues for my children in the future.

Okay, so I know some of you are all for breast feeding your children no matter what the age, but would you willingly display it like this image has? I am all for breast feeding and wish it was something I could of continued, but I wasn’t comfortable and stopped. I want your opinions! Please. Am I the only one frustrated with how Time Magazine has portrayed breast feeding? Remember, a picture speaks a thousand words, instantly.

Please leave me your thoughts here or over on our Facebook community now!

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A Mom of 2 very hyper children, ages 6 & 7. They can be a handful, but I love every minute of it! I work from home full time on top of being a full time stay at home Mom. Multi-tasking is a definite speciality I’ve learned over the past 7 years, and I surely can juggle just about everything.

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  1. Danielle says:

    I don’t like the photo nor the caption….however, I’m utterly surprised that the readers here have ignored the fact that you’ve implied babies should be nursed behind closed doors (especially nursing rooms where many are dirty and disgusting) and that the idea of your mother nursing you sends shivers down your spine. Nursing isn’t all about being “sentimental” and does not always require “privacy”…it’s about feeding and nourishment also. I’m confused how you can accurately state you are “all for breastfeeding” but include the other comments in there also.

  2. Leslie says:

    I don’t see anything wrong with the picture. I think do what you like to raise your kids how you like. People used to look at inter-racial marriage and think “that’s disgusting” and now we don’t even bat an eye. I might not make the choice to breastfeed that long but I don’t really know since my child weaned himself at 10m. I might have let him breastfeed longer I don’t know.

    I do disagree with the headline because we need to stop judging each other as moms and families and build each other up. Why do you care about another person’s choices if their child is happy and healthy?

    Possibly by the time these children are old enough to be parents our society will have moved on from bullying people into social norms.

  3. While our views on nursing are different – I agree that the cover is inappropriate, and think it is just another way for the media to spark debate and get people riled up

  4. I wonder how that kid will feel when he is old enough to speak his opinion and see millions saw him on his moms breast . I think this picture is going to upset many,but like a few others said it is the caption that bugs me most

  5. For me, it’s all about the caption that bothers me the most here. I am all for breastfeeding, I fed both of my children until 13 and 18 months, BUT I also respect the fact that some Moms don’t want to or can’t breastfeed and the caption “Are you Mom enough” disturbs me, greatly!
    I do think that because our culture doesn’t fully embrace breastfeeding older children, many of us feel uncomfortable when looking at that photo, but as Sam says – this is the norm in many cultures – it just doesn’t have to be displayed on the front cover of a popular magazine!

  6. Please be aware that this is merely my opinion but When it comes to the picture- Firstly, this child doesn’t look like he is enjoying this at all. This doesn’t portray the beauty of breast feeding, in fact all I see is some kid with some woman’s boob in his mouth, looking rather out of place. Both the woman and the child look detached from each other… this DOES NOT portray the love, bonding, nurturing and connection that should be associated with breast feeding at all….

    I am not made uncomfortable by breast feeding but I am severely uncomfortable with the way this makes breast feeding appear….

    I think this is sending the wrong message… all around, and it seems that its meant to make those that didn’t choose to breast feed long term, are bad Mothers.

  7. Jennifer says:

    I feel really bad for that little boy, I don’t think it’s respectful at all the allow that picture to be posted, the poor thing. And I’m really hoping my own boys never see the picture, they were all breastfed, they know breastfeeding is how you feed an infant, but seeing a school ager in a position like that – well words can’t explain.

  8. Sam says:

    Like many people, this picture makes me a little uncomfortable, but I feel that is my own issue and not because this woman (a fellow blogger) is doing anything wrong. It is normal in many cultures to breastfeed long term and it is healthier for the child. It makes me uncomfortable because it is not common or socially accepted in our culture. Personally, I’m glad to see Time Magazine attempting to broaden our horizons and promote breastfeeding which really does have a long way to go to be accepted completely in North America. I don’t have a subscription, but maybe I will get one :)

  9. Bonnie Way says:

    I agree that the picture is completely inappropriate. I was shocked by it, as well as by the caption that goes with it (though that’s very hard to read here). Like you, I don’t think this promotes breastfeeding, but rather promotes people who take it to extremes. I know several people who practice child-led weaning (and have nursed their children until they were 3 or 4), but they do so very discreetely and would NOT flaunt it like this. Nursing is natural and normal, but this picture makes it the complete opposite.

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